In our society it’s so rare to find people who genuinely love themselves. It’s much more common to be insecure than confident, which blows my mind. When you do see individuals who are expressive about their self-love they are often viewed as “cocky”, because we live in such a superficial world.

We’re all addicted to our phones. Hooked on social media, living vicariously through others while comparing ourselves to people we may or may not know. We want to present our “best self” to the outside world, without ever exposing the dark, unfiltered, or sometimes just plain true parts.

We’re all seeking validation, and that’s ok. It’s human nature to need validation. But I think so many people are seeking it in the wrong places. You can’t rely on someone else to be the prime source of your self-fulfillment. After all, it is “self” isn’t it? And it’s overstated, but we sure as hell aren’t going to feel validated if you’re relying on your followers and number of likes on a perfectly modeled photo. Don’t get me wrong, it all makes us feel good, compliments can boost our confidence- but it can’t GIVE you confidence. Confidence needs to be authentic and genuine, which happens naturally when you learn to love yourself. YOU have to be your first love. You have to take care of yourself; emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Self-love is a unique journey for everyone, but it’s the most important thing you can ever do for yourself. When you’re comfortable and confident in your own skin, you don’t need validation from others to feel empowered.

This Valentines Day, I want to remind you to take a step back from social media and focus on yourself. Whether you’re celebrating with a significant other or riding solo, do whatever makes you happy today. SPOIL yourself, take a bubble bath, grab a bottle of wine- whatever fulfills you and puts a smile on that beautiful face.

I pray that you feel loved. I hope that you feel validated, and I challenge you to put yourself first…today and everyday.

XO

JWess